“I made my vows to him that I would fight for my marriage,” Kail reveals. “I want fans to learn: Work things out with your significant other and don’t fight with them about things you can’t control… Choose your battles.”
“When you have a newborn, things change in your marriage,” she adds of the couple’s challenges raising their son together, Lincoln Marshall, 8-months-old.
Kail has fought for this relationship, perhaps because of the failings with her ex, Jo Rivera, the father of her toddler son, Isaac. The former couple struggles to communicate and co-parent, as depicted on the show.
While promoting her tell-all book, Pride Over Pity, back in April, Kail revealed a series of bad and violent relationships that marred her teen years.
She admitted losing her virginity in eighth grade on a sidewalk. “Suddenly, my pants and underwear were pulled down…Our movements and his touch were unromantic,” she wrote. “When it was over, I ran home, blood trickling down my leg… I was too young to understand that I wasn’t ready— physically or emotionally— for sex. I believed then that I had to have sex to keep up with my friends.
She also talks in the book about being raped twice. In ninth grade, boyfriend Toby got violent, “Toby wouldn’t take no for an answer…. I didn’t want to sleep with [him], but he persisted. Denying him seemed fruitless. I believed Toby loved me, so I decided I could give him this one thing as long as we wore a condom.”
She got pregnant from the rape, as she discovered taking a pregnancy test in a Walmart bathroom. She wanted to keep the baby, but relented when her mother, Suzi, insisted on an abortion – which took place on her 16th birthday.
She was also violated after the birth of her son, Isaac. A guy she’d dated a few times showed up at her house unannounced and overpowered her.
“He was plastered and insisted he needed to talk to me, so I let him in,” she writes. “But he had no interest in talking. He pulled me into the bedroom and slammed me onto the bed, taking my clothes off roughly…His strength was overpowering. I felt a tear and knew I was bleeding….It felt like I was dead.”